ConneXions Workshops Leader Biographies
Here is some background about the people who have helped create this workshop.
About Bob Jones
Ever since I wound up in a highly dysfunctional job at Microsoft in 1990, I have been looking deeply into the mirror of who I am. I got trained as a Gestalt Therapist and certified as a personal coach, but my roots in computer programming were so deep that exploring my heart was a big challenge.
In 2000, a therapist I was working with referred me to The Mankind Project
(MKP) and I took their New Warrior Training Adventure
in November of 2001. Now, 15 years later, I can report that this training saved both my marriage and my life.
After I took the New Warrior Training Adventure (NWTA), I sat in circle and learned how to go deep with other men. I learned how to help them look into their own shadows and I came back to staff subsequent NWTA events 40 times. I learned to lead the Primary Integration Training (PIT) which teaches men to develop the tools, skills and self-awareness to create a safe space for us to help each other become better men. In fact, I have taken just about every training that MKP has to offer. We do a wonderful job of helping men connect deeply with each other, but I saw a hole in our teachings that spoke very clearly to me: we don’t teach men and women how to simply connect with each other deeply and authentically. I created the ConneXions Workshop to address this challenge.
I have drawn heavily on my experience with The Mankind Project
, Buddhism, Gestalt, Spiral Dynamics, Integral Theory, The Karpman Drama Triangle, Zen Meditation, and many other disciplines and practices, but I do not hold myself up as anything but a fellow traveler on the road to deeper self-awareness. And I must have done at least something right because I have been married to the same woman for 41 consecutive years and our relationship is stronger and deeper today than it has ever been. I also have a pretty good relationship with each of our three children and with each of my four siblings.
I now spend much of my time reading, thinking and learning about how to deepen authentic connection with others, with myself and with my own sense of purpose. I hope you will join me in this exploration by taking my workshop.
- Emotional Maturity
Growing up is about developing Emotional Intelligence (understanding of human emotions) and Emotional Maturity (EM), the ability to use and apply Emotional Intelligence (EI) to connect more deeply and authentically with yourself and others.
Peter Vajda ...
- Shame and Guilt
I have staffed over 40 Mankind Project New Warrior Training Adventure weekends and helped initiate over 1,000 men into mature manhood. The theme that I see over and over is some variation on, “I am ...
- Getting Clear
There is a process we use in our men’s work called a “Clearing”. In this process, we separate data, judgments and feelings, then look for shadows that may cause us to project an unhealed wound ...
- Data, Judgments and Feelings
In resolving conflict, it is useful to separate or parse the active elements involved in the conflict. These elements can be broken into four groups:
Data – the facts of the situation. The “objective truth” that ...
The difference between a judgment and a discernment is really quite simple. A discernment is something I see dispassionately and clearly without any emotional charge. I may or may not be correct in what I ...
- The Victim Triangle
The Victim Triangle
The Victim Triangle (also known as the Karpman Drama Triangle) is a simple but profoundly useful way of looking at dysfunctional relationships in action. I was introduced to this model by Garth Alley ...
How is being aware different from being conscious? The term “Consciousness” has been defined as “Anything that we are aware of at a given moment“, however there is no real consensus among philosophers and psychologists about what ...
- Conflict Resolution
My wife and I have been married for over 40 years, and we have had countless conflicts in that time. And we are still happily married and quite in love with each other. What’s our ...
Accountability is about keeping an agreement I make with someone else. Integrity is about keeping an agreement I make with myself. Accountability is external to myself while integrity is internal.
Wikipedia defines Integrity as “The quality ...
In more than 40 years of marriage, I have made plenty of mistakes. My partner may have made a few too, but that’s for her to decide, but if I think she has made some ...
A number of years ago, I was traveling to a Mankind Project New Warrior Training Adventure on Vancouver Island in Canada with three other men who were helping to staff the weekend. We got to ...
Shadow is some part of me that I hide from you and even from myself. In Star Wars lingo, shadow is referred to as “The Dark Side”. Both Freud and Jung defined shadow, but they ...
- Empathy vs. Sympathy
Sympathy is feeling compassion, sorrow or pity for the hardships of another while empathy is putting yourself in the shoes of another. Although compassion is often welcome, sorrow and pity do not enhance connection. All ...
- Interview With Bob Jones on Voice of America
I was interviewed in early March, 2016 by Alise Cortez in her “Working on Purpose” show on the Voice of America. We talked about my life as a programmer and my experiences with the Mankind Project. ...
- What Happened To ConneXions?
My last ConneXions Workshop was in September, 2017. Since then I have done little on this website or with the content of my workshops. So what happened? Why did I disappear?
I live in two worlds: ...
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. For my personal website, visit rhj4.com
I am a Great Granddad with attitude… helping built an Inclusive, Sustainable, Culturally diverse, Spiritually Fulfilling and Socially Just World for Everyone! I co-create this world of Fierce Light and Love by inspiring others to live lives of vibrancy and fulfillment. I live my life fiercely with meaning and value and hope that it inspires others. To me Fierce light is the active resistance to the destructive forces ruining our planet our communities and our families. Each of us has this light and wonder to share.I work from a World Conscious perspective which is an indigenous worldviews of healing and wellness a kin to trans-personal and Eco-psychology. I have a diverse background in many areas but prefer to spend my time in community building and support of others making a difference in our lives.
As an aboriginal scholar I work to inspire communities of conscious choice, relationships and Culture as a means of indigenous survivance and vitality. Survivance is more than mere survival—it is a way of life that nourishes Indigenous ways of knowing and being its is a Vibrant life worth living and remember. To me indigenous means to have a deep connection to ones place, family, culture and Heart. I believe we are all indigenous at the depth of our soul. I believe that it is the disconnections and wounding of our society that cause the most suffering pain and illness in our current communities. I believe that most of us long for more Joy, love and wonder.
Please consider me for any counseling, ceremonies and workshops or facilitation you might need in your community.
Grandfather Little Coyote
I work in performance development for major corporations, such as Microsoft, Boeing, Alaska Airlines, Textron, Lexis Nexis, TD Bank, Iron Mountain, and Amazon, to name just a few. I bring seasoned leadership to the ConneXions Team with a multitude expertise in training design, delivery and assessment.
I received my Bachelors of Science in Psychology and Business Administration from Washington State University, and I’m a committed Cougar Fan (Go Cougs!) even though I attended graduate school at UW to receive my Learning Design and Application Degree. I am a lead trainer, instructional designer, and program manager. With over 15 years of experience, I’m highly skilled at working alongside and building connections with people of all ages and backgrounds.
On a more personal note, I’ve been a student of “being human” all my life. I began my quest for self-discovery when I was 20 after seeking the help of a therapist as I was transitioning out of a toxic relationship. I learned about The Drama Triangle, Corrective Parenting, Psychodrama, and other therapeutic modalities of healing. I was hooked on becoming a better version of myself and a better partner in my relationships!
As of today, I have attended many workshops and conferences, read countless self-help books, meditate most days, and have been involved in a women’s circle for 12 years. I’ve studied with healers here in Seattle since I was 28, learning things like body energy work, cranial-sacral therapy, massage, breath work and Reiki. I’m in a committed relationship with a wonderful man. Our five children are making their own way in the world. I practice astrology and read tarot; some days I’m pretty good at it.
When I first met Bob, and learned about the ConneXions Workshops I knew I had to be involved. The concepts and practices taught are applicable to every human on this beautiful planet. We are all connected whether we want to admit it or not. Why wouldn’t you want to learn how to connect more deeply and authentically with the people in your life? I know I do. Every day I learn. Every day I grow. Every workshop, you teach me.